It has been quite a while since I've posted. I guess I get so caught up in the mundane things involved in life, that I just feel I don't have anything inspiring to write these days.
My husband, Gilles, is on his second run at his new job in Ft. McKay, AB, and we're finding that this arrangement is actually working really well for us. We're starting to appreciate each other more, and we actually miss each other. We were on the verge of divorce. When he left for the first run, I asked him if he would miss me, and he said he didn't know. Well, the week he got home, we had more emotional intimacy than we had had in the past six months....we talked non-stop about things, and we began to re-discover each others' minds... we found out things about each other that we hadn't known.
He called me as soon as he arrived at his room in AB to tell me that he had gotten there safely, and that he already missed me.
Another thing that has been good for us has been deciding to "open-up" our relationship, meaning that we are committed to each other, but can see other people. I'll spare the details, but I had one wonderful experience that I told my husband all about, and it brought us even closer.
What saddens me is that someone very close to me is not dealing with it well...she's taking it personally...almost as if it were her relationship at stake. My husband and I are the ones who have the right to make the decisions about our relationship, and noone else. I don't expect this kind of arrangement to work for everyone, nor would I want to even try and force it on anyone, but the fact is that it's working for us right now. Maybe we are only prolonging the inevitable end, which is divorce, but at least we're getting along much better and speaking to each other, and actually having fun with each other for a change...so I think that makes it healthy, even if others may not view it that way!
